Archive for the ‘Inner Space’ Category


Saturday, December 18th, 2010

When you love yourself, you accept yourself without any guilt or shame, reservation or fear; Seeing yourself as the complete being that you are, through a mirror bearing your true reflection. Are we complete? Or are these words the aimless amblings of an uncertain mind, trying to grasp form from mist? I often wonder if […]


Keeping it Real

Monday, October 11th, 2010

The other day on one of my deliberately rare journeys on the Tube, the carriage I was on stopped at a station, positioning itself in front of a poster. The poster featured a model posing in an advert for underwear. My first reaction was to snort in mild derision, with a gentle roll of the […]

Find Your Space

Monday, July 12th, 2010

I clearly recall the turning point at primary school, when I began to dislike P.E. classes. It occurred with the imposition of rule-based sports we were obliged to play, where the focus lay in ‘winning’ and ‘losing’ games I had no personal input in the creation of and had expressed no desire to play, as […]

I am Woman…Part Two

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

The term ‘Bonfire of the Vanities’ originates from a series of 15th Century purges on perceived facilitators of ‘sin’. Particular focus was predictably placed on consigning the fripperies of femininity, such as mirrors, cosmetics and pretty dresses to a literal fire, with the aim of imposing ‘morality’ and restoring the integrity of human value. In […]


I am Woman…part one

Sunday, March 14th, 2010

To what extent are you born a woman…and to what extent do you become one? It seems like an unusual question to ask but a recent visit to the Wellcome Collection’s exhibition, ‘Identity: Eight rooms, Nine lives’ challenges the very idea of gender and sex as fixed, immutable facts of biology. The biological determinant of […]


Till death us do part?

Thursday, February 25th, 2010

You meet the ‘one’. Fall in love. Get married. Live happily ever after… Yet even as a child, when the fairy tale rounded to its tidy conclusion and the pages closed shut, I was left with a lingering set of doubts which could neither be silenced nor clearly articulated. In the current social climate, I […]


The Jig is Up!

Tuesday, January 19th, 2010

In this age where women are aspiring towards an increasing sense of self-determination, is there any relevance to the act of social dancing with a partner? Historically, social dancing played a significant cultural function in the process of selecting a partner for the ultimate purpose of courtship and marriage. Such forms of dancing had a […]


Invasion of the Man Snatchers

Monday, December 14th, 2009

The growing army of Tiger Woods’ mistresses emerging from the woodwork, alleging various sexual liaisons may have escaped your attention recently. So in a bid to be topical, this entry will attempt to tackle the vexed issue of women who make a habit of selecting men who are already ‘taken’. Note that I am deliberately […]

The Cinderella Syndrome

Thursday, December 3rd, 2009

We are all aware of our inner child; a natural component of any personality – male or female. But the inner little girl can often undermine the ability of women to assert ourselves in an adult sphere. The Cinderella syndrome coined by the psychotherapist, Colette Dowling in her 1981 book ‘Cinderella Complex’, identified the subconscious […]